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A raw look at why their goal isn’t to hurt you — it’s to own your emotional world, whether through ecstasy or chaos. One of the biggest misconceptions about narcissism is the idea that narcissists want to hurt people — that the cruelty is the point.It isn’t. One of the biggest misconceptions about narcissism is the idea that narcissists want to hurt people — that the cruelty is the point.It isn’t. If you’ve spent time with reputable voices like Dr. Ramani, Richard Grannon

How angel numbers showed up during my twin flame deprogramming — and why they weren’t the ones leading me astray. If you’ve spent any time in the spiritual or New Age world, you’ve probably heard of angel numbers . And if you’ve ever dipped a toe — or your entire nervous system — into the “twin flame journey,” then you definitely know what I’m talking about. For the uninitiated: angel numbers refer to those repeating number patterns that seem to pop up everywhere — on clocks,

Today, I want to talk about a phenomenon that affects so many people after narcissistic abuse — usually following an intimate partner relationship — and that is everpresence . So, what exactly is everpresence? It’s the uncomfortable, intrusive, and at times deeply unsettling sensation of feeling the narcissist’s presence with you all the time on an energetic level — sometimes for weeks, sometimes for months, and in some cases, for years after the relationship has officially

When “needy” isn’t the problem — and when it’s a red flag. Today I want to address a concerning trend I’ve been noticing more and more: people mistaking narcissism for codependency. On the surface, I get it. Some narcissistic behaviours do  look similar to codependent tendencies, especially in certain stages of a narcissistic relationship. But the distinction matters — a lot. Being able to tell the difference can mean the difference between getting trapped in an abusive cycle

If you’ve ever watched Severance and thought, “This feels uncomfortably familiar,” you’re not alone. There’s a conversation we’re still not having enough — even though the breadcrumbs are out there if you look — about how certain workplaces quietly slip into cult-like territory. I’ve worked in more than a few of them myself. And when you zoom out, it actually makes perfect, disturbing sense. A workplace is the ideal structure for cult psychology to take root: a group of peop

Have you ever been in a relationship where everything feels mostly okay… until suddenly it isn’t? One minute you’re having what feels like a normal conversation, maybe even a slightly tense one, and the next — your partner is gone. Emotionally, physically, or both. They might say they “need space.”They might say nothing at all.They just go offline — literally or metaphorically — and you’re left sitting there wondering, What just happened? Did I do something wrong? Are they c

There’s a lot of confusion — and sometimes controversy — around the overlap between Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). On the surface, these two very different conditions can look similar, particularly in social interactions and perceived empathy. But beneath the surface, they are fundamentally different. Understanding the difference is not just academic — it can protect people from misdiagnosis, misunderstanding, and even emotional ha

Ever wonder why you feel everything so deeply — and why love can sometimes feel like both a gift and a storm? If you identify as an empath, chances are your sensitivity runs straight into the heart of how you attach to others. Here’s what that really means — and why understanding your attachment style might just change the way you love. In a previous article, I talked about how narcissists don’t actually have an attachment style — because, well, they don’t really attach to an

In online conversations about relationship health, the terms toxic relationship and narcissistic relationship often get used as if they mean the same thing. While every narcissistic relationship is undeniably toxic, not every toxic relationship stems from narcissism. This distinction is subtle, but it’s crucial — especially for people trying to make sense of their own experiences. Toxicity Can Exist Without Narcissism In my work as a relationship counsellor, I regularly mee

How “good vibes only” thinking became the new form of spiritual denial “Real spirituality isn’t about floating above your pain — it’s about walking through it and emerging whole.” There’s a growing phenomenon in modern spiritual spaces that deserves a closer look — something often called spiritual bypassing.  But what I’m seeing today feels like it’s evolved beyond that. It’s starting to look and act like a cult of positivity  — complete with its own dogma, jargon, and unspok

If you’ve spent any time on YouTube, you’ve probably come across the popular idea that narcissists tend to target empaths more than anyone else. You’ve also likely heard that empaths become addicted  to narcissists — that once they’re hooked, they can’t seem to walk away. Now, I do believe there’s truth to the first part. As an empath myself, I’ve definitely had my fair share of narcissistic entanglements — not just in romantic relationships, but also within family, friendshi

When exploring the vast world of narcissism and attachment — especially in the endless stream of videos and articles on YouTube — you’ll often hear people label narcissists as having disorganised or avoidant attachment styles. This is a common narrative, one that makes sense on the surface: narcissistic behaviours often involve emotional distance, self-centredness, and difficulty in forming deep connections. However, voices like American counsellor and psychotherapist Peter S

In the twin flame community, there’s a popular idea about something called a “false twin flame.”  It’s often described as the one before the one  — the person who supposedly enters your life to prepare you for your “true” twin flame connection. It sounds poetic, almost cinematic. The story goes that this person comes into your life to trigger your deepest wounds, forcing you to grow, awaken, and ascend so that you’ll be ready for your “real” twin flame — your other half, your

Ever felt like you were on top of the world  in a new relationship—only to later wonder if it was all real or just a manipulation? You’re not alone. Many people struggle to tell the difference between a normal honeymoon phase  and love bombing  in narcissistic or toxic relationships. Getting this wrong isn’t just confusing—it can leave you emotionally drained, manipulated, and deeply hurt. Here’s how to spot the difference before it’s too late. The Honeymoon Phase: Love at It

If you’ve ever been told that everything painful in your relationship is “just a mirror,” you’re not alone. And you’re not crazy for questioning it. One of the core beliefs in the twin flame ideology is the concept of the mirror  — the idea that your “divine counterpart” reflects back your shadow self, showing you what needs healing. You’re told that if your twin flame hurts you, disappears, or rejects you, it’s not really about them. It’s about you — your wounds, your fears,

When I was deeply immersed in the twin flame ideology, I truly believed I was on a healing journey. I was convinced that all the inner...

In the spiritual community, you often hear about breaking generational curses. It sounds powerful — even glamorous at times — but the...

Today I want to make a follow-up article to an earlier blog post where I discussed the toxic truths of the twin flame cult. This time, I...

Today, I want to talk about the connection between narcissistic abuse and spiritual awakening. I know that might sound a little unusual...

Several years ago, I was under the influence of the insidious ideology that has become almost mainstream on the internet: twin flames. It wasn’t until I came across a video on YouTube called “The Untold Truths of the Twin Flame Cult,” that the twin flame bubble I had been in for the past five years started to burst. As I began to dig deeper, I came across several other videos. The plot thickened. One video explained that whilst there is no specific cult leader, the twin flame